My fondest memory: There I sat, anxious, nervous. With flushed cheeks, shaky knees, sweaty palms. Two soft eyes looked down at me, deep brown with specks of gold. I felt a hand on my arm, my face, my soul. Slowly leaning, warmly breathing, only seconds before his lips reached mine. A distinct memory in my mind. Lips trembling, anticipation rising, eyelids falling; slowly. The motion seemed automatic, only gravity lead the way, a trance-like state. A blank mind, a magnetic force between us, unspoken, only feeling. Then, two magnets connected.
The literal object, a magnet, is a scientific feat. A fascinating phenomenon, studied at an early age in school and sometimes beyond. In an interview with Andy Bradfield, a physics major at Northern Arizona University, he mentioned the molecular level at which magnets work. He stated, “it has to do with the atoms, the electrons have to be aligned and rotating in the same direction.”
Direction is important when falling in love. Direction in the sense that two people share the same goals and values. Their lives are taking a similar path, to reach a common goal in the end. When the life path of two people converge, psychologists recognize that there is less strain on a relationship. That the relationship is healthier because two people share the same aspirations and dreams. Direction is important.
North and south poles, they attract people young and old. North and South poles, on a magnet. Well they’re different in every way. Not warm nor hot, no feeling at all. Just attraction.
The north pole on one magnet attracts the south pole of another, but the north pole on one magnet repels the north of the other. Like poles repel, while unlike poles attract. Quite like people, quite like love, in fact.
It is fascinating how natural objects may portray, in a literal manner, the very feeling that humans have inside. How a magnet is automatically drawn to their opposite. What’s the saying? “Opposites attract.” Magnets are created artificially today. They come in all shapes and sizes, large and small. Yet they are able to attach and attract all.
The definitions, of “attraction” takes on simple and complex forms. The physics definition of attraction is defined as, “a force acting mutually between particles of matter, tending to draw them together, and resisting their separation” (N.A 2017). The psychological definition relies more of attractiveness in terms of looks. It is defined as a “natural feeling, a desire to be near or with another” (N.A 2017). We are all magnets looking for our opposite pole.
Magnets and love, the common factor between the two is, in fact, “attraction.” Although certainly different definitions between the two. Unlikely concepts: one an object, one a feeling, but how similar they truly are.
Humans crave company: friends, family, significant others. They are all essential to our emotional well-being. To feel wanted, loved. It is a “step” upon famous phycologist, Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs. We all feel this desire, to be with another, one similar enough to ourselves but different enough that they remain interesting.
Finding a compatible partner, that is the feat. One that some are not meant to defeat. You can search all your life for someone “perfect,” but instead of searching why don’t you let go, let your figurative magnet soul find it’s opposite pole?
What do magnets have that humans don’t? Why is it so easy for a magnet to connect to another? Science tells us that magnets are equipped with a “magnetic field” around them. This field allows one magnet to attract others. How easy it would be if humans had this capability. Although, Oh, contraire, humans do. People have personalities, an aura about them that attracts other people too.
As a child, I liked to play with the magnets on the fridge, spelling out words that did not exist. I did not think that one day I would want to be like a magnet. That when I grew older, I would sit with my thoughts. I would eventually conclude that I wanted, no, needed to, connect, like magnets do. But rather, on an emotional level, with people.
My fondest memory still lingers in my mind, I love to think back on that day, on that time. I can retrieve it like it was yesterday, the feelings inside. The nervousness I had just sitting beside him. Now I look into those deep brown, golden specked eyes and I wonder, how lucky a magnet would have to be to find another as opposite, as fitting, as he. We are all just figurative magnets in the end, searching for our opposite.
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